Tag: motherhood

  • Later motherhood, on the rise

    Later motherhood, on the rise

    The decision to have a baby has become
    more and more difficult to make. A growing number of families give up having
    children altogether or decide to have them later on in their lives. According
    to the latest data made public by the European Statistics Institute Eurostat,
    in 2017 the average age at which women in the European Union have their first
    child was 29, with the youngest ages, 26.5 years, reported in Bulgaria and
    Romania. Apparently Romanian women are following the lead of Western European
    families, and couples want fewer children and later in life. People are more
    concerned with personal happiness. In recent years, profession has started to
    become increasingly important in women’s lives. They are more interested in
    studying, in moving up in their career, and this turns family life into a
    smaller priority.




    On the other hand, experts warn that
    later pregnancy entails a number of risks. Stefania Mircea, a project coordinator
    with Save the Children Organisation, explains:




    It’s a recent trend, whereby having
    the first child is pushed until after the age of 30. Men and women become
    parents a lot later than previous generations used to. The reasons for this are
    numerous, and they have to do primarily with the growing financial and
    professional pressures. Sometimes, the consequences are not trivial, going as
    far as the impossibility of pregnancy. But there are many other risks as well:
    miscarriage, genetic anomalies of the foetus, gestational diabetes, premature
    birth, difficult childbirth or even death at childbirth. The general consensus
    is that a woman reaches maximum fertility around the age of 25.




    But in spite of the increase in the
    average motherhood age, Romania still faces serious problems, particularly in
    vulnerable communities. The European survey also reveals that the highest
    percentage of teenage motherhood (mothers under the age of 20) was also
    reported in Romania and Bulgaria in 2017, namely 13.9% of the total number of
    first-time mothers. Romania is at the top of the list of EU countries by number
    of underage mothers.




    According to the latest report by
    the Save the Children Organisation, 5 in 10 mothers under 18 have never been to
    a specialised check-up, which led to a 4-times higher rate of premature births.
    Stefania Mircea tells us more:




    The issue of the teenage mothers still
    is an alarming one in Romania, given that the infant mortality rate is almost
    three times higher than in the case of adult mothers with official access to
    proper healthcare assistance. According to a survey published by the National
    Statistics Institute earlier this year, the infant mortality rate in the case of
    mothers under 15 was 17.3 per 1,000 live births in 2017, whereas the average
    nationwide rate stood at 6.7 per 1,000 live births. For the 15-19 age bracket,
    in 2017, the infant mortality rate saw a higher percentage compared with the
    average rate countrywide, namely 10.5 per 1,000 live births. According to the
    most recent statistics, 742 teenagers younger than 15 became mothers in 2017,
    while 18,938 live births were reported for teenagers aged between 15 and 19.




    For quite a few years now, the Save
    the Children Organistion has been running programmes supporting Romania’s vulnerable
    communities, Stefania Mircea has told us:




    We have been supporting these
    families by providing the proper medical treatment and everything related to
    the educational component. We have created a network to support social
    inclusion and combat poverty, providing integrated medical, social and educational
    services at local level. We work in 14 counties and we have noted an
    improvement. We have local teams offering assistance to around 7,500 people, including
    children younger than 5 years of age, young mothers and pregnant teenagers. As a result of our intervention, more than 30
    % of the pregnant women in these communities had gynaecological check-ups
    during pregnancy, the children and pregnant women we provide assistance to have
    started to see their family physicians or some registered with a family
    physician, services they had not benefitted from before because they were
    either not aware that such services were available or because it was difficult
    for them to reach the doctor’s surgery.




    The emancipation of women, the
    intensification of migration, the growing demands of raising and educating
    children and the lack of family policies are some of the causes leading to lower
    birth rates in Romania. According to statistics, Romania’s population is
    decreasing at an alarmingly fast pace. 2018 saw the lowest number of live
    births in the last fifty years, as only 173,900 children were born. Young
    Romanians leave the country each year in search of better living conditions. In
    ten years, from 2007 to 2017, 3.4 million people left Romania, which accounts
    to approximately 17% of the country’s population.

  • The Work At Home Moms Club

    The Work At Home Moms Club

    Many women have a change of career after becoming mothers. After maternity leave, some choose to work from home. For all the mothers in this situation, the Work At Home Moms Association offers counseling and support. It was set up two and a half years ago, when founder Elena Gorun gave birth to her boy.



    Spokeswoman Andra Todirita told us how they work and grow: We organize various events, workshops to let mothers know about their opportunities, how to register their work at home, and how to find solutions to problems they face. We also help them organize and network through Mama Connect, meetings where mothers meet and talk about what they do, and possibly work together. We also organize fairs on holidays. On that occasion, the members of the association present their products and services, and people outside the association can meet them and know about them. Sometimes we attract investors to support the projects the mothers design.



    Many of the mothers working from home turn their passion into a business, be it designing jewelry, tailoring, cooking and painting. Others offer legal and financial advice, others are involved in various marketing or promotion projects. They stay at home mostly for the sake of the children, like Cristina Antonica, a member of the association.



    She believes that most members choose to work from home because they can no longer relate to their previous existence, giving herself as an example: “My decision to work from home started with the birth of my second child, and I now have three kids. When I gave birth to my daughter I wanted to be close to her, and at the same time make myself useful. There is a preconceived idea that a stay-at-home-mother only takes care of the home and the child. In reality, in our times, a stay-at-home-mom wants professional satisfaction as well. I run a publishing house, and I do that from home. It is a small business which publishes childrens books and parenting books.



    As a manager of editors and an editor herself, in addition to being a full time mother, Cristina has a challenge on her hands. The freedom to manage her own time constitutes a difficulty. Which is why Cristina shares her work with the children: “My kids are my partners. I offer them practical experience. I did not know how fascinating this world is for them before I got involved in this work. They love going to the printing workshop, they love touching the paper, looking how things move around. They go with me anywhere I need to go. We play together too. I mostly work at night. In fact, most mothers who work from home do that.



    Andra Todirita, spokeswoman for the association, is herself a work-at-home mom. She told us it was not hard for her to give up her previous job, because working at home allows her to explore various facets of her personality: “I felt I needed something else. Since university I have felt an attraction to alternative medicine. When I got pregnant, as I noticed with other moms to be, a different world opened up to me, a more creative world. And since I had attended a training course during the years spent in the institute, I started using the knowledge gained there when the kid was born and once I had gone on maternity leave. Once I became a member of the Work At Home Moms Association, I had the opportunity to get involved and help other mothers tackle challenges better, by using their own resources. This is the niche I picked. It is a dialog I have with my clients, giving them the opportunity to discover their own solutions and see more clearly what they want for themselves. This is how they get to know what they have to do in the future.



    Just like Cristina Antonica, Andra Todirita designs her schedule around her daughter, and when she can, she takes her to the meetings of the association. Andra holds courses there to help mothers in need of psychological counseling and moral support, and she told us about it: “They share their situation with other mothers, they have access to counseling, experts or therapists, to get over difficult situations, such as family trouble. Our association works with mothers in difficult situations, like single mothers or moms with insufficient incomes. We have a responsibility towards ourselves and our children to be more emotionally mature in order to cope with the challenges facing us, and prove to others that we can deal with whatever comes our way. The power of example is great, and if we can prove to our family that we can make things work, then we can change minds.



    In spite of the fear that comes with giving up financial and professional safety, more and more mothers choose to work from home. They get to spend more time with the children, and they can also reinvent their lives.